There are times in my life, far too often, that I feel completely out of control.
Losing sight of the big picture, I forget I have any dreams or goals; and get sucked into the small stuff of day-to-day life and suddenly a few months have passed with little or no achievement. My self-discipline is non-existent and, to be very honest; I even start whinging. A lot.
I punish myself as I let people down, am certainly not the best mother, friend or mentor and suffer terrible guilt.
All leading to me not liking myself very much. Not a great place to be.
Throughout this strange, crazy and wonderful journey called life, I have learnt that guilt is the most useless emotion in the world.
It stops us in our tracks and can bind us for years.
The Good news is - I’ve learnt a way to by-pass this destructive highway of self-punishing-guilt.
Every time I start feeling out of control, unhappy, or just plain going in the wrong direction;
I write a list of what’s bothering me.
It continually surprises me how many, of what seems like major problems, are easily resolved when I write them down.
Some are more difficult, say, hating our job. Not necessarily an easy fix. But writing it down starts the thinking process. To change or better our working life becomes a goal.
I keep a pen and writing pad next to my bed as there are times when I wake in the middle of the night in a panic.
I write down whatever is bothering me, I can then sleep.
What I write down I then revisit and write down my measures.
Measuring goals is important; the why, what, how and when.
Even if it’s the tiniest goal in the world; it needs to be measured.
If a goal isn’t measurable, we have no way of knowing what we have accomplished and have nothing to aim for. It’s also okay and advisable to review, update and revise our goals often.
It keeps us on track.
As an example:
Goal: to lose 10 kilos
Q: Why do I want to achieve this goal?
A: I can’t fit into my clothes, I am very uncomfortable, lethargic and unwell; plus my self-esteem is at rock bottom
Q: What is the measure of my success?
A: Losing 10 kilos, I’ll jump on the scales same time once per week.
Q: How will I achieve this goal?
A: Review my diet and exercise plan; cut out junk food, eat more unprocessed foods, cut down alcohol and drink more water. I’ll walk 4 times per week instead of catching the bus.
Q: When will I achieve this goal by?
A: I’m aiming at an average of 0.5 kilos per week, therefore it will take 20 weeks; 15 November 2015.
Stop yourself and think, what’s annoying you? What’s not working? What’s niggling at you?
Write a little list. It works wonders.
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